Dealing with rude people, with no manners and tact can be frustrating and displeasing. It requires self-control and a big dose of optimism to avoid anger or sadness in those situations.
And even though, we are all guilty of losing our temper or expressing some form of rudeness on occasion, there is a whole world of cruel, relentless simpletons out there.
With the rise of telecommunications, the increase of offensive, disrespectful behaviour has been multiplied many times. This way the hostile, cowardly people find it much easier to express their lack of respect for others. It is easier to be audacious when no one is looking at you directly. Usually, those people are dealing with their own issues and insecurities, and in many cases, rudeness is just a form of self-preservation.
But, there is something sinister about the person with no self-worth. When such people detect confidence and conviction, they turn into arrogant barbarians.
In my current profession as a paid companion, I am answering 20-30 phone calls and even more emails, text and whatsapp messages every day. It can be quite overwhelming, even if I was only to deal with good mannered people. I'm always trying to be as brief, helpful, professional and polite as possible but, I have to admit, at times keeping my composer is a challenge.
I do understand that, while I speak to many people, to most of those people I am the only London escort to communicate with on that day.
I stay away from judgement and keep myself open and understanding. Many men do not realise the implications connected to this business, and they are not obliged to.
I have a lot of screening to do to stay safe and comfortable, and not everyone has the best intentions.
I try to remember that sometimes rudeness is inspired by a bad day, rushing, personal issues, past experiences etc., and I do not take rudeness personally. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt.
But when someone repeatedly makes bad comments, just because of his disagreement with my
conduct, services, outlooks or opinion - it is easy to get upset.
I usually take away the power, by pointing that this "problem" they have, has in fact nothing to do with me, and choosing to ignore further discussions and interactions.
However, I can not see how my approach to new clients or what boundaries I set for myself, can be offensive to anyone?!
I live in a free democracy and my right of freedom is not questionable, besides I do not directly look for anyone - It is someone's choice to contact me!
I am old fashioned, I like being gentle and romantic, I like intellectual connection and I like to keep my mental and physical health in tucked. And last, but not least, I like enjoying much of what I do on a daily basis.
I have nothing against "hard porn" sex, BDSM, A-level ,Golden showers, OWO etc, I just don't like it and choose not to offer experiences I am not comfortable with.
No prejudice against bimbo style behaviour, reckless sexual experiments and shallowness - just not my "peace of cake"!
No hard feelings for people with insecurities and personal instability, I just don't tolerate arrogance.
I very clearly state in all my advertisement and on my website, the kind of Companion I am, the type of client I would like to be visited by, and the experience I offer.
I have included FAQ's on my website and explained many times, I do not answer messages such as 'Hello Sexy'......'Hi Babe'....'How much'....'You hot' etc., or I am simply not available to people, who start a phone conversation with negotiations or 'Baby, give me your prices'- I am not your "baby", my name is Nicole and I do not have a price, I charge fees for my companionship.
If you do not have the basic mannerism of a respectful person, and not aiming to clearly state your intentions, or placing a relevant enquiry, please do not expect a response.
When you contacting, for example, your local car dealer, you do not send them an email " Hi" or "Prices?" ... do you? The escort industry is an actual business ( a few trillion business worldwide). Of course, it deals with much intimate matters, but that is irrelevant.
There is a huge variety of escorts in London, appealing to all kind of intimate interests and sexual orientations ( even some I have never heard of) There is an escort for every aesthetic, financial or service requirement that a client may have.
Why want CIM or OWO , but chose to call an escort,who does not offer those services, and "bash" on her about it? ...it really makes no sense.
Are those men simply bored and trying to entertain themselves? Do they have difficulties reading?
Does it give them pleasure to be rude? Do they think all escorts offer all services without exception?
It is puzzling to me every time I encounter such individuals.
I recently had a business related conversation with a "male"(for no better expression will suit him), which started on a seemingly normal note.
He told me, how he has been "watching me" on my website for some time now and would like me to go to his apartment for the evening. He wasn't at all scarce in his explanations of his good looks and riches and without a drop of shyness, requesting me to perform some collaboration of elaborated sexual and not so sexual favours, that were simply not anywhere near my competence, and also quite offensive. After trying to refuse politely, and explain that firstly, visiting a private residence is against my rules of conduct, and secondly, I am not the suitable companion to contact for all those "services" he needs if he wants to insure satisfaction, he told me with giggling arrogance in his voice: -'Surely you are, how much do you want for it? I will pay you whatever you want?'
Of course, this isn't my first time dealing with suchlike comments and questions, so I just told him that no amount of money will make me change my mind and that I would like to respectfully reject the offer and avoid disappointments on both parts.
Unfortunately my responds were playing on him, like a gasoline into the fire.
He kept on trying to convince me, how profitable and good his offer was, even had the audacity to speak to me in a suchlike manner: 'You are just are whore, stop acting like a queen, and take the money. I have had so many, much more beautiful women then you, and have enough money to buy every each of you, sluts'
I told him, by the way he is speaking to me, I can positively say, he is definitely the type of client and man, I don't want anywhere near me, and his money are just as worthless to me as he is. Then closed down the phone and blocked his number.
Probably, the better response would have been just closing down the phone from the very beginning, but It just went further than what I expected of from a "business" conversation.
I did not lose my temper, and stayed calm through the conversation, but my blood was boiling. His uncalled rudeness and sassy-ness completely caught me off guard.
I am a confident, mature person, with good metal stability and established character and similar situations will not affect me beyond the initial annoyance.
But., I am really concerned about the young women, who have to deal with this ugliness. And I am not referring just to the escort circles, as ill mannered people are everywhere. This can be so damaging for a young, impressionable mind.
Thinking about that conversation now, makes me sad actually. I feel only pity for this person. How troubled and miserable you have to be, to allow yourself such degrade?
I am not convinced that every case of low self-image and insecurities, comes necessary with rudeness and bad manners. But I know for sure,
that rudeness, uncontrollable temper and desire to hurt the ones who do not obey you, comes certainly with low self-esteem and mental issues .
Be a good example, respect yourself and others.... and don't forget to smile!