Is it "All about Me" client's attitude that turns passion into mechanical duty for the escorts, or is it more complex than that? Business or pleasure? Is it possible to "purchase" emotion? Can escorts really enjoy their time with clients?
Those are some hot topics, and at times they get so scorching, no one dares to touch them.
Unfortunately, there isn't an Escort Manual Handbook that points to the last detail of how an escort session will unfold. Many issues may occur in the attempt to professionalise intimacy, and in many ways passion will prevail over the crazy desire of viewing escort work just as business.
People are different, and so are their attitudes and circumstances. Balancing between business and intimacy under the spiteful and judgemental eye of society, where pure lack of empathy easily becomes the worst adviser, is not just hard , but enough to push anyone (client or escort) into the pit of bad taste.
Even a great person can be provoked in displaying some unruly and rotten behaviour if they do not have complete control over their emotions, and when placed under immense physical or psychological pressure.
While many (senseless, arrogant) men are under the impression, that by paying an escort, they do not need to take her feelings or desires under consideration, and the only reason she is there, is to serve their needs and make them feel validated and superior. Other (wise,insightful ) MEN, treat their escorts with the respect and dignity they deserve.The same way they will treat any other woman in an intimate encounter. Knowing and understanding sexual ecstasy can only be achieved by two people feeling equally the burning desire and overwhelming sensation of passion, and that emotional connection is of a vital importance for such passion. Intimacy can never be selfish.
Of course, how the escort will respond in either situation is just as individual.
There are many escorts who are closed to the idea of emotional connection between themselves and a client, and treat it as a business transaction. Some find it easier to deal with their inner demons that way. Some have been emotionally hurt by a client/lover in the past and some are simply hustlers, and interested only in the financial rewards. Often such escort interactions are described by the clients as monotone and mechanical, and they completely reject the idea of repetition.
Probably, most of those escorts lack regular clientele. But I can only guess, men who are into "the bang-bang" style experience do not mind seeing such ladies. And as long as the escort is meeting their physical aesthetics and service requirements, they are fully satisfied.
Who's behaviour is inspired and provoked by whom in such situations is hard to determine. Fact is, that there are as many escorts complaining about client's bad behaviour and insensitive mannerism, as clients complaining about girl's coldness and greedy business approach.
I personally, do not know many ladies in the business. I am relatively new to the industry, work on and off, and keep my distance and privacy from the escort crowd. I rarely discuss that side of my life with anyone, but my clients. I am not interested in the everyday activities most escort girls undertake- shopping, partying, drinking or falling into the self condemnation route of drugs and other evils.
However, the very few girls I have met through the Agency, I have briefly worked for in the very beginning of my "escort career", were very pleasant, intelligent young ladies. Girls who had vision for their lives and future, and were also very open to the possibility of even love in the fields of escorting.
They were kind, and very concerned about the deeper bonds they were forging between themselves and the clients.On many occasions sharing that they have truly enjoyed their client's intimate company and are often inpatient to see them again. They did not forget to conduct themselves in a professional manner at all times, but one can only imagine what happens in the presence of passion and chemistry and behind closed doors.
Is it truly possible for an escort to connect with every kind, respectful gentleman, even when she has the most sincere intentions?...Absolutely NOT.
Chemistry is not something that can be purchased or artificially created. While I admit that emotions and pleasure can be faked to a certain extend, I do not believe that one can fake real chemistry or repulse.
Escorts, no matter how different and extrovert , are all just girls with the same feelings and emotions as any other human being. Some with hearts more sensitive and loving, and some with cold and calculating ones . And, as in normal dating life, chemistry will be the biggest factor even when someone "ticks or not all boxes".
Just because a woman is working as an escort, does not mean she should not have respect and love for herself, or act a certain way only suitable to the client. A woman can be an escort and still be her true self.
I have made some wonderful friends and felt some real connections in my life as a Courtesan.
Experienced tremendous pleasure while exploring my sensuality (much of which I was unaware of before). I often think of my clients and miss their company and sense humour ( sarcasm in some cases). I cherish the lovely memories I have created with them and feel lucky to have met them.
And even though, I am very found of all my Temporary boyfriends, I fancy some more than others. There are some people who simply find an easier and more natural way to your heart. Those feelings can not be controlled by money or good intentions. Feelings have no logic or morals.
I am barely qualified to have an educated opinion about the London escort life. I have formed my very own approach to the industry and follow only my heart and what works for me alone. I have my unique, individual understanding and vision of the client-escort dynamics, and I am quite unconcerned with what the norm for "success" is , and aware success translates differently to everyone.
But if you ask my opinion...
As long as you treat an escorts/clients with the same respect you wish them to show you, and as long as you don't forget the fragility of their human emotions and be mindful in your approach, regardless of who they are, and where they stand in the social ladder , you are most likely to enjoy your escort-client/ client-escort experiences, fulfil some secret desires and make pretty lovely memories.
Be kind to one another and don't forget to smile!